Anon is disappointed
By - SiriuslySarcastic
Putting googly eyes on your hand does not count.
Who put you in charge?
Wait a minute, this whole operation was your idea
I like tacos and burritos
Oh so yummy, my kisses taste like tacos and burritos.
prove it leftist
Having a gf is work man. It pays off, but it isn't super easy, especially if you are used to being a self centered prick.
Source: am self centered prick.
Based and redpilled
What if you're a self-loathing people pleaser. Airgo, the opposite of self-centered. Is that easier?
Nah, in that case you just torture yourself to satisfy a person whose interest and respect for you diminish with each interaction. I’ve seen that happen to people, it’s real sad.
Self respect is key in all relationships, you set your own value in life.
Self loathing is completely self centered. Once you realize other people have needs, feelings, and lives, it is fun to interact with them.
Seriously asking, why is it worth it? Sometimes I feel like it would be nice to have a companion to take on life with since its sometimes tiring to do it alone but at the same time, I'm a major loner and dont want to talk to people or do things with them most days. I want to keep to myself and do what I wanna do. Aka im a self centered prick as well
Well, I like cooking, and it's good to feel appreciated for something I do well. It's fun to make someone else happy with something like that.
It also is good to have someone that holds you accountable to some degree, and also inspires you to be a little better. Let's say I clean my place before she comes over, and she says "wow babe, it looks great in here!" That would make me feel good, and also I will be happy that I have a cleaner room.
I'm a loner too, I see her 1-2x a week, and have only one sleepover. This way, I have my space and me-time.
Obviously, sex feels really good and makes you confident in life. The best part of a relationship is that you no longer have to go find pussy and play games to get wet. It's there when you want it (assuming you have compatible libidos).
Look, if I play piano for 4 hours when she's over, it's a prick move because I am doing "me-things" instead of "we things". The key is to find/develop we things to do together.
So, you can do all the me-things you want by yourself. But we-things are really fun! And having them with a best friend you also have dirty sexy with is the tits.
That's a good point, if I found someone who was fine with 1 or 2 dates a week without going deeper than that then that would be pretty great but I'm worried that for it to be worthwhile for me, I need a deeper connection with them. If they want a deeper connection as well, it seems unlikely that they'll be cool with only meeting up max a couple times a week.
Do you guys have a very deep relationship? Or is it more of a light company and hookup sort of deal? I guess thats not bad either. I just wish for something a bit deeper and monogamous but feel like I cant have that if I'm not putting in the effort with them.
It's plenty deep this way. I don't have enough time or personal energy to hang out with her more than the once or twice a week, but we FaceTime everyday usually for 5-20 minutes. If I'm really not in the mood I tell her "babe I'm not really in the mood of talking right now" and that's ok.
It is deep (we're talking about marriage, kids, etc), I put in effort (flowers, nice words, backrubs, food, sex) and that doesn't mean I forgo all personal space and time.
It's sounds like you have some anxiety about finding the optimal level, where you and (the hypothetical) she can both get all of your needs met without getting overwhelmed.
This is the work I mentioned in my first comment!
The trick is listening to your own emotions and communicating them to your woman. If she cares about you (or sees you as worth investing in) she will want to help you meet your needs.
If your gf is a lot of work she isn't the one. My gf requires the exact amount of attention I'm able to give and I wouldn't have it any other way.
It depends what you want. Imagine if you met a woman who was exactly your type in every single way physically and emotionally yet she was deaf, you would have to learn how to communicate with her. That would be work. That's what I mean.
Fake: anon got a gf
Gay: anon doesn’t like gf
> be me
> get home from my vasectomy
> hear moaning and slapping coming from my wife's room
> must be Chad again
> know they would want privacy, sit down at my computer
> log onto reddit and open /r/greentext
> read a funny greentext from le 4chins and chuckle as I listen to my wife begging for the genes I can't give her
> think of a convoluted way in which I can relate homosexuality and falsehood to the events in the greentext
> suck the cheeto dust off my fingers as I begin to type my masterpiece in the comment section
> Fake: anon got a gf
> Gay: anon doesn’t like gf
> giggle as I imagine the intellectuals of leddit perusing my incredibly witty and original comment
> hear my wife moan with ecstasy as Chad floods her fertile womb with his seed
> it's been a good day
> i'll get lots of upvotes for my impressive contribution to internet culture, and Chad might even let me eat his cum out of my wife's pussy if he finds my comment funny enough
jesus that one hit harder than usual
Damn,take my 🤣
My wife's a bitch. I love her but ho-ly shit does she freak out about the least important shit. I tell her it's not a big deal and she says I'm making light of her feelings. Jesus fucking Christ, it's no wonder my dad turned to alcohol and drugs.
“What’s wrong with her now?”
Biggg nope. My mom would freak out about shit too and often make me feel like perfectly good shit was ruined because it didn't go optimally. As a coping mechanism I stopped caring about small things entirely. Its really hard to "ruin my day" now. If I had a partner who did that shit I'd dump them
That's the problem, it seems like they all wind up at that stage.
I think not getting bothered over small crap isn't a coping mechanism but a realization that getting triggered by nitpicks is stupid, the idea reinforced by your mom's behaviour. Or in other words, you aren't r-worded
If she's upset, saying it isn't a big deal won't solve anything. Try sitting down, putting your emotions aside, and ask what she's really upset about cuz you're clearly missing the signals about what she's genuinely unhappy about.
\>anon bought the “girlfriend” meme
The oldest meme in the book.
Your mom isn't your gf anon. How many times do i need to tell you.
Talk to me anon, why isn't having a partner 'that good' for you? Don't be afraid, anon, I want to help you and nothing more.
little reward? Perhaps you're not seeing the big picture, anon. Thinking about the 'here and now' in a relationship is a fast way to get burned out of it. Can you describe this for us, anon, the little reward part, of course? We promise not to judge your words and do our best to understand you, we love you anon and the person you all days strive to be. Maybe, if you feel that it's okay, put in words all the effort you feel is being wasted.
now I understand you, anon. It's a real shame, but only you would be able to tell if you finally rolled the lucky nat-20, till the time come be happy with yourself because life doesn't narrow down to be with another person, I and your father love you 3000 thousand, anon, we'll always support you whenever we can and, as an endnote, the tendies you asked just got warmed in the microwave and I brought you a coca-cola, enjoy the rest of your day!
You will never be my real mother
That's why your sister won a ps5 as a birthday gift and you a Wii U.
thems' fighting words.
Same, I'm introverted so even though I don't have a problem socialising I still need time for myself.
I can't believe I agreed with someone from 4chan tho
> I'm introverted
> I don't have a problem socializing
shut the fuck up
Introverted isn't the same as socially anxious or asocial you dumbfuck.
>someone who is shy, quiet, and prefers to spend time alone rather than often being with other people
Where does it say that you have to be socially inept or hate socialising?
I don't hate it, I just need a lot of time for myself.
How can you have no problems socializing if you are a shy and quiet person who spends their time alone. Emphasis on "alone". It's literally impossible to be socializing if you are alone. Are you socializing with your schizo entities? I guess it's possible but unlikely. I think what's more likely is that you are a retarded normie who spends 5 days of the week with their non-close friends, colleagues, associates etc. and on the saturday you spend it with your close friends/family and on sunday you realize you are socially exhausted and want some alone time and you think you are an introvert because of that while in reailty every normal person is like that.
In reality introverts don't speak to anyone unless they absolutely have to, and don't look forward to speaking with anyone, let alone spending time with anyone. They just want to be alone all the time, except if they are horny
Bitch you're so lame to come up with this. Introverted doesn't mean "I don't speak to anyone unless I have to" it means "I prefer spending most of my time alone".
I am shy, I don't try to talk with people i don't know well, I'm not outgoing and I spend most of my time alone.
Yes, I spend time with friends at school, and then I just stay at home by myself playing guitar or anything.
I have no problems keeping a conversation, I can ask a waitress to fix my order if they messed up really bad, I can ask some stranger for directions.
If you think "I avoid social contact at all costs" then you think social anxiety is the same as introverts.
A lot of people are introverted, and no, they don't only harass girls online when they're horny as social contact, they have friends, they chat, they can even go out, the difference is that that's only a small fraction of their time, since most of it they spend it alone, because they need it.
If you used normie on me unironically because I do have a small social life then jesus Christ that's sad, because in case you haven't noticed, in 4chan they rarely really use it unironically _and_ in a bad connotation.
Ok I thought you might be one of those annoying people who think they are an introvert while they are not, and as far as I can understand from this you are not, you are in fact an introvert, but then how and why do you think you are socially comfortable? Like come on look at this shit:
>Introverted doesn't mean "I don't speak to anyone unless I have to" it means "I prefer spending most of my time alone"
And you describe your behaviour, which is in line with the dictionary description of introvert, and the "not speaking to anyone you don't have to" thing I said. All good so far. And then you say this:
>I have no problems keeping a conversation, I can ask a waitress to fix my order if they messed up really bad, I can ask some stranger for directions.
These are the situations where you have to speak to someone. You don't have a problem doing this, good for you, it means you can speak to people when you have to, so can anyone that leaves their room. Would you ask that waitress how her day was before you order? No? That's the difference between an introvert and an extrovert
>If you think "I avoid social contact at all costs" then you think social anxiety is the same as introverts.
Social anxiety is when you can't speak to someone when you have to. Following the waitress example, it is saying shit like "uhhhh" or stuttering 10 times when the waitress ask you for your order and being unable to sleep at night because you said "you too" when they said "enjoy your meal" after they bring you your food.
>A lot of people are introverted, and no, they don't only harass girls online when they're horny as social contact, they have friends, they chat, they can even go out, the difference is that that's only a small fraction of their time, since most of it they spend it alone, because they need it.
Yeah i agree, but who said anything about harassment? I only mentioned the horniness because it is pretty much the only time the loneliness gets to introverts. One good fap session and it's all good again.
Im not socially comfortable with strangers/certain people, but that doesn't stop me from going through necessary interactions.
About the harassment, it is common for some asocial people (usually gamers) to harass women and be like 'i can't get gf cause I'm introverted" which isn't true at all.
About social anxiety ig it's one with the other, you avoid social contact because it's hard for you to go through it and many times mess it up like that.
Anything else you want me to address?
Also I think you might be under the impression that I think introverts can't have any friends. That's not what I'm saying. Socializing is one thing, having friends is another. Introverts are bad at socializing, but they usually have a small circle of friends. You say that you are an introvert, and that you are good at socializing, which is where I disagree.
I didn't say I'm good with socialising, im saying i don't have a problem with it when it's forced on me (group projects or whatever) unless I specifically don't like the person/people.
I don't have a problem with social interaction, it's what I mean.
Gf ≠ good gf
How the fuck sliding in and out is not satisfied to you,Anon
Yeah I don't enjoy it tbh, especially when you're spending all of your time with them
Anon doesn't know how to treat a girl and is suprised she doesn't do shit for him back. Also his girlfriend is actually a prostitute
Happiness depends on your perspective, you don't 'get' things and feel happy automatically
He’s gay and that’s okay
Idk bro, I have yet to know how it feels to be wanted by someone
Eh, your first love will feel like heaven until a couple months after breaking up you look back at it and realize it was awful, a waste of time, energy and money.
Wait till anon discovers the sexy times
Get another one.
Get one that will peg you