I[M26] fell in love with a university groupmate[F25]
By - Somebody_to_love_
Tell her! Go for it man! If she says no just be friends, it ont matter, life is life and it is what it is!
Thanks for the reply! I'm not rock-solid sure if that won't make her feel uncomfortable since, I forgot to mention, she always openly blames and criticising herself for everything, so I'm afraid it might break her...
Ask her out for some 1 on 1 activities like coffee, hiking, whatever, and see how it goes. You don’t have to lay it thick on her or anything.
Thanks for the reply!
I drove her to the university for the first time today but got so excited that I almost lost words, lol
Ask her out like a date, but don’t need to make it an official date, so things won’t become weird if she says she’s busy or the "date" doesn’t go too well.
Gonna try to pull it, hope to find a day in the year when she isn't busy :)
If she’s interested she won’t be busy all the time, and vice versa. Good luck.
If asking her out means you HAVE to see her for four months daily for almost four hours every day, maybe this isn't the type of relationship you want.
Or maybe it's time to bite the bullet to seek what you want, and do what you need to do to have it if you really "fell in love" with her.
I believe you have fallen in love for the first moments. Now is the time to take the risk. If it fails, you will have a long time of working with her knowing that you're embarrassed for being rejected.
But you'll know that you tried.
And if you get rejected, I think you'll still be kind with her as you eat crow every day. Welcome to life.
I'm more than happy to see her if that's what you mean, and if I had a chance, I’d spend much more time with her. Right now, she either always says she's studying or already has plans. But I’d be completely ok if she just rejected me without any negative consequences for her mood.
> Right now, she either always says she's studying or already has plans.
You've already asked her?
To just go out as a group -- yes. To go out with me only -- nope.
But I drove her to the school today.
Go out with friends with her. Take it slow. See how it goes.
Sorry, I just remembered that I forgot to mention one VERY crucial detail — she’s from Asia, so are all her friends. I know two of them, but not so well to actually just “hang out” with them.
I'd try and hang out with her outside of the group and see how that goes, and if you think she's also interested in you then go for it. If you don't think she's into you, you can still try, but it will be more risky since you don't know how she feels and you could end up getting rejected and have to face her everyday, but if you truly are in love with her then it should be fine and she will understand that it's a good thing that you have feelings for her and she won't have negative feelings towards you because of it, but she may not feel the same way of course. You could always try anyways.